People who are by default happy, and people that are by default unhappy.
It is incurable, it is how we are born.
My mother and I just got off the phone after having an hour conversation about the essence of happiness and sadness. We talked about how, by nature, some people are happy, and some people, by nature, unhappy.
The more you think about it the more it makes sense. Naturally happy people are happy. Do they get sad? Yes. Do they get angry, depressed, upset? Yes. What makes someone naturally happy is not that they are always cheerful, but that they see the glass half
full. No matter what, there is a good outcome. Things will be fine. Rainy day? Oh well. Get sick? Bring on the ice cream.As I thought about this, I realized that I can easily place people I know in the Happy or Unhappy catergory. (Because I am not a bitch, I'm not going to name anyone for the unhappy category.)
When I thought of happy people, the three people that came to my mind were Sydney, Stefanie and Marlees. They are truly the happiest teenagers I've ever met. They possess very similar qualities: they're beautiful, kind, smart, and they have a lot of friends. Happiness is addictive. Whenever I see these girls I am smiling 95% of the time.
Being born beautiful, rich, or exceptionally smart means nothing when it comes to your level of happiness.
Happiness does not come from these things. Happiness is the highest form of maturity. Happiness is seeing the world through a different perspective. Happiness is loving yourself. Happiness is having fun. Happiness is enjoying the ride. Happiness is being in the moment. Happiness is love. Happiness is free, endless. When you are happy you want to give your happiness to everyone you know, because you have an endless amount.
Unhappy people are around all of us.
What perplexes me is that your success in life is not equivalent to how happy you are.
I know unhappy people that have more friends and a better social life than anyone I've ever met. I know unhappy people that could never study a day more in their lives and still get into Stanford. I know unhappy people that look like they walked off the pages of Covergirl Magazine. Happiness does not come from being pretty, smart, or lucky. It comes from your soul, your intention.
Bottom line:
Lucky people are not happy:
Happy people are lucky.
Unhappiness is easy to spot. It usually takes form, in my opinion, as addiction.
Not to say that everyone that does drugs is unhappy. However, at such a young age, it makes me wonder why people need to get high. Its something that I almost fear. It just, makes me uncomfortable. I.Don't.Like.Drugs. When I think about it my stomach goes in knots.
What the hell is the point? Does it make you happy? Why do people need to do it? Why? WHY?!?!?!? Why do people think that it's SO FUCKING COOL?!?!
Answer: it's relaxing, it's fun, it's illegal. It makes people H-A-P-P-Y.
It makes them act like happy people.
It makes them lose social inhibitions.
They laughter, the relaxation, the goofiness: that is HAPPINESS.
Bottom Line:
Weed=Happiness in a plant
My bottom line:
I was born with happiness, I don't need to smoke it.
(Okay, so basically, I have a long, complicated and very flip floppy issue with weed. Please excuse my sometimes judgmental and confusing view on the matter.
it makes no sense.
I know.)
I am a happy person.
I like to spread happiness, kindness, the whole bit. I have happy friends, I have unhappy friends.
Unhappy people like me because I'm happy, and happy people like me because we're so alike. I love each kind of person equally, although I realized I want more happy people in my life. I recently made a friend, a HAPPY friend, and I realized how wonderful it is to be around people that are so in love with life. It's infectious. It's wonderful.
Everyone needs happy people.
Unhappy people are not bad. Unhappy people aren't always unhappy, they're not mean. Unhappy people are very commonly happy a LOT. It's just the basic, deep down, CORE part that is different in a happy person and an unhappy person. How they would be if you stuck them in a box, with no stimulation or fun. Would they sulk, or would they say "Hey, this is awesome, I'm in a BOX!"
ALBERT SCHWEITZER:
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
DENIS WAITLEY:
Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.
HH THE DALAI LAMA:
When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.
3 comments:
This made me happy. However, it also made me sad, because I realized that I am an unhappy person.
I'm not saying that in a whiny, "oh woe is me" way. I've been happy recently, very happy at times. But if I were in a box...well, I would be enjoying the boxy wonder of it all. I would be crying or something.
At least I have happy people around me. That makes it easier.
This was a very cool post. Super insightful and I totally agree with all of your points. Sadly, I think I'd fall into the category of Unhappy Person. For about 65% of the year, I am quite unhappy. Right now, I'm in a great mood within a great mood swing. I have my ups and downs, but I'm able to see past the negatives and find the good things in each day. Now that's a quality I'd like to retain for the rest of the year!
Thank you so much! I was feeling all super unhappy.. but you're right I am a happy person and knowing that (slash that my exuberance is not for naught) inspires me to be even happier! And Girl #42 (hehe) I think that anyone can become a happy person if she surrounds herself with enough happy people.
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